Glory to God!!! February is here again and soon everyone will be all about Valentines this and Valentine that, so many people will get engaged on that day or better still get married on that day. . . Well am not against people celebrating or whatever, even I have picked out things I want my husband to buy for me, LOL.
The fact still remains that many rush into things without looking, hence the high divorce rates, and spousal abuse etc (especially in the Christendom) it is scary that even the world have to give advice to Christians now. Perhaps you are already married , about to wed, or in a very serious relationship, I recommend you read this along side with your Bible.
My junior sister's friend sent me this through email last year
Godbless you as read
SUCCESS IN LOVE RELATIONSHIPS
Success in love relationships is not a matter of luck.
The state of your love relationship today is a product of your choice till date.
Choices are made based on the information at our disposal per time.
Having false, wrong or incomplete information will lead to making wrong choices.
Having true, correct and complete information will lead to making right choices.
Your source of information determines the quality of your information.
Information from the wrong source is usually false, wrong or incomplete while information from the right source is usually true, correct and complete.
The nature of your source determines the reliability or otherwise of your source.
The success or failure in love relationships depends on the nature of your source of information on love relationships
GOD AND LOVE RELATIONSHIPS
Because God created humans, God is the only authentic source of information on love relationships.
God is love. God does not have the ability to love. He is love. He is therefore the only authentic source of information on love relationships.
It makes sense to pay attention to whatever love has to say on relationships.
Success in love relationships can only be attained by understanding and practicing the principles that guarantee success in the manual (Bible , word of God) .
WHY MARRIAGES FAIL AND LOVE RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT SUCCEED.
The source of information on love relationships today are friends, magazines, Romance Novels, the electronic and print media, the Internet, and movies.
Most of these sources of information contain man’s ideas and no more.
Hardly do people turn to the manual when they have questions on love relationships.
Because the information is not from the right sources the information is false, incorrect and incomplete.
Choices made from false, incorrect and incomplete info cannot be right choices.
Consistent wrong choices in love relationship will always lead to failure in love relationships.
WHO ARE YOU?
Until you know who you are, it is not wise to start a love relationship.
Self discovery begins with knowing why you exist.
A discovery of your purpose makes life meaningful and gives your life direction.
Knowing where you are headed makes knowing who can go with you easy.
Knowing your dominant temperament helps you understand your strengths and weaknesses.
Knowing your dominant temperament helps you know and understand who you need.
Knowing your dominant temperament helps you know who can complement you.
Knowing your purpose in life helps you understand your likes and dislikes.
Knowing your purpose helps you understand your potentials (abilities).
Knowing your purpose helps you eliminate wrong partners for marriage.
Knowing your purpose helps you appreciate your gifts and talents.
Knowing your purpose helps you specialize in your area of gifting
Specializing in your area of gifting builds your confidence.
Knowing your purpose helps you understand your life experiences, past, present and future.
Knowing your purpose helps you to accept yourself.
Accepting yourself helps you build self confidence.
Knowing your purpose helps you develop a vision for the kind of marriage you desire.
Knowing yourself helps you develop vision for the kind of marriage that you desire.
You are a product of your environment and your experiences in life.
Your environment and your experiences contribute and concretize your belief system.
Your belief system determines how you process information received from your services.
Your environment and your experiences shape your expectations in life.
More than 57% of marriages contacted worldwide fail because most people get married without knowing God’s purpose for marriage and they end up abusing themselves and their marriage.
Marriage is first and foremost for the establishment of a home where Godly children can be born and unturned to become responsible citizens of God and the world.
Marriage is also for the purpose of providing suitable help for a man to fulfill God’s purpose for himself and his wife.
Marriage creates the right atmosphere where man and his wife can work together joyfully as companion to fulfill God’s purpose for their lives.
Marriage is not just to stop people from being promiscuous.
Marriage is not just for financial security.
Marriage is not just to provide a man with an unpaid domestic help.
Marriage is not just to provide women with a bread winner.
Marriage is for two spiritually mature children of God.
Marriage is honourable and adultery is forbidden. God judges adulterers and adulteresses
Marriage is a life time commitment and should not be entered into unless one is ready to be committed to another person forever
God hates divorce and judicial separation.
Two people became one with unity of purpose, vision and direction.
Marriage attracts the favour of God.
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
The place of expectations
Expectation is the mother of manifestation
If you do not know where you are going you will end up anywhere.
If you do not know where you are going you won’t know when you get there.
After knowing yourself and knowing God’s purpose for your life, you must know the kind of mate you require.
You must have a dream of your mate, spiritually, physically, temperamentally and socially.
You must realize that you are not perfect so you cannot expect a perfect mate.
You must understand that God doesn’t give us finished products. It takes faith to choose the right partner.
THE PLACE OF PRAYER
God wants your marriage to succeed more than you want it to succeed.
God knows the beginning from the end and he knows who is right for you.
You must consciously ask God to lead you to the right person.
You must give God thanks continually for hearing and answering your prayer before the manifestation of the right mate.
You must rest in God and not allow anxiety or pressure from friends and family to make you jump at the first available choice.
You must believe that God loves you as much as he loves Jesus Christ and he cannot mismanage your life if you trust Him.
Your expectations about spouse must be rooted in the manual (Bible , word of God).
Your expectations must not be based on information from romance novels or soap operas.
Your partner may not immediately have all the qualities you desire in a spouse.
Your partner may not have all spouse but they may have the potential for those qualities
Asking a lady to get pregnant before marriage to prove that she is fertile is unwise.
Sleeping with a lady before marriage to prove that you are not impotent is unwise.
Asking a lady to sleep with you before marriage to prove her love is unwise.
Footing the education bill or caring for the family of your partner before marriage is unwise.
Not Waiting to hear God’s voice about the choice of a marriage partner is unwise.
Getting married because someone said it is God’s will without hearing from God yourself is unwise.
Hoping to get married to the first person you enter into courtship with is not wise.
Asking God to give you a rich man for a husband is not wise.
Getting married to someone who has promised to change their character is unwise.
Expecting someone to get married to you out of sympathy is unwise.
Marriage in itself does not bring joy, peace, happiness or fulfillment.
Marriage in itself is not the solution for your emotional needs
Marriage in itself will not provide you with self worth.
Marriage in itself will not make you a better person.
Married life is not a bed of roses.
It is foolish to serve a man, hoping he will end getting married to you.